Because Packing is Always the Worst.

And right now in SoCal it is very hot and I am very unmotivated. We are coming quickly to the end of May and, as I have said in previous posts, this month definitely has it out for me.

I have worked all month, visited with friends from out of town and have had at least one event going on every month, the majority of which have required multi day packing for events that varied so drastically the there has been no way to put together a prep-kit for most of the items that need to come with me.

Which is really the biggest pieces of advice I can ever give when facing the absolute horror of packing: create a packing document. This goes double if you have routine trips – ie. SCA camping trips. Have a list for formal trips, casual trips, those require specialty outfits/items, and then go through length of the trip. This may be because I am a Excel-nut but seriously, pre-made packing lists that cater to you because you have tailored them to you are the biggest lifesavers you will find. (If anyone is interested in seeing examples of what I mean, I can probably be persuaded into making a post all about it!).

One of my major packing issues – which I am sure I have covered before – is a really common issues: I pack lighter for long journeys than short visits.

There are many reasons why this happens to most of us. Long journeys usually mean that you’ll be living out of your suitcase longer, having to keep track of more stuff where you go, and a higher probability of having to move said luggage more than once which is a pain when there’s a lot. People tend to pack more versatile clothing when they travel further so the number of things you’ll need drops drastically. Also, with long trips, people figure they can buy and discard as they go so you aren’t lugging around items like hefty shower supplies and other bathroom tools.

During short visits, however, this seems like a waste of time and money so we pack everything just in case we need it. We tend to have more specific ideas of what we’re going to be doing at every second but tend to load ourselves with more options (especially clothing) for each of the activities we have in mind and even those we don’t (sporadic club night, maybe?).

In my last trip up to Fresno – another quick trip that I felt lackluster to pack for – I waited and waited and then packed and cleaned for an hour before getting into the car. I was up there for graduation for two days (three if you include the day we drove up) and I had exactly three outfits in my suitcase: day one (a simple wide leg trouser and crop top), Pjs, and day two (a dress and colored tights). The only thing I had to worry about was whether or not I was going to switch out my days. There was no complication over possible changes because I simply didn’t have the option. It was amazing.

And yes, I am aware that the last minute nature of last weeks packing contradicts my first ‘have a plan’ advice but it is this experience which is now helping shape my future plans. For short trips, pack only what you need and leave behind what you think you might.

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

Because Packing is Always the Worst.

Rules for Road Trips: Knowing your driver

This past weekend, I was at a camping event that seemed to be fighting the environment. We were all sandblasted by a veritable dust/dirt storm the fist two days and had off and on showers (more on than off) on the final day – mostly while trying to pack everything up (which brought out many more bugs than is ever necessary).

I camp with my sister, meaning that we have a easy system. One works and packs in the wet, flooded tent while the other takes a break (you can nap, eat, try to get warm, whatever) inside the car and then you switch. Once camp is broken down, we work together to get everything in the back of the truck and settled. most things have a specific place or weight-derived order – to limit the chances of flying debris later – so again, this all goes rather quick and without incident.

I am also the driver and I like to help pack everything up so that I know I won’t have issues when driving. I also like to be the person pressing the buttons to look for music when we drive – I know where everything is without driving and it keeps me going and she knows not to touch my buttons unless asked.

Ki is the passenger. She looks for food, keeps an eye on the navigation, puts up with my music and – most the time – my rants or weird topics of conversation, and she makes sure that when we get food, I am easily able to access mine without killing us both.

The point? She knows her driver. we are partners in this and very rarely – with the exception of terseness over hormonal or exhaustion fueled outbursts – do we have any kinds of problems and ever those are usually apologized for and waved off before the drive is even finished (usually within 5 minutes of said outburst).

Not everyone gets to have these kinds of relationships.

This was abundantly clear while watching others in our group trying to pack up over the course of the day. These ladies were trying to balance multiple duties while tearing down so they had more to accomplish than ki and I, however, I’ve seen this happen on more than one occasion.

Packing their car is insane. Everything has an exact order and placement to make it all fit which makes sense but was easily thrown off by the incremental packing and the elements (rain) fighting against them.

The big problem comes to a head in a matter of workload and conflicting ideas on who and how things need to get done. This groups driver has very specific ideas on how things should go in the car for all three ladies things to fit. She also seems to think that the others should know how to pack said car the way it needs to be packed so that she doesn’t have to guide every step of the packing. As she puts it, she can’t tire herself out with all the packing, because she need to conserve her energy for staying awake while driving so if it looks like she’s lazing around during the process, that’s what’s going on.

Her passengers, however, know that she will get frustrated if things aren’t packed just so – even when certain things don’t make sense to them – so they will need her input and help to do things like set up and tear down. They have admitted that changing some of the tearing down order would probably be done before hand to smooth out the wrinkles.

Despite years of camping together, these small bumps between passengers and drivers makes me believe communication is a real issue and if you are going to road trip with someone, the very first thing you need to do is find out what your companion(s) needs from you. Every driver is different and as someone who fills this road a lot, it’s really nice when we don’t have to think of everything. But drivers, don’t forget to speak up and even set some ground rules.

Every ship needs a captain – figure out how your ship sails best and I wish you many happy adventures.

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

Rules for Road Trips: Knowing your driver

And the Maddest Month: May

So I know that I’ve recently been mentioning that I feel the need to get out of town and when May turned out, boy, did it deliver. Maybe more than I am at all ready for!

While work has amped-up to the nth degree, every weekend this month is filled to the brim with travel and activity ranging from 20 minutes to 5 hours away. So, here it is:

I have a camping trips a few hours north and another one 20 minutes above the Mexican border, a graduation trip up to Fresno State to watch my baby sister finish school, and the 20 minute trip to an event I’m hosting before a sleep followed by mothers day. I honestly don’t think I have a day off this month.

Still, summer is fast approaching and with my parents flying off for their 30th anniversary and another cruise, I’m thinking of a few different local trips I can manage while still getting home to feed the animals.

So it’s go, go, go, but I’ll still see you here, week after week, so thank for tuning in.

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

And the Maddest Month: May

To War and Home Again (SCA-Style)…

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Great Western War, Bakersfield, CA. October 2016.

I know I have written briefly about the SCA and the huge camping trips that come along with all the other crazy adventures before, but now I am back from round two – Great Western War. This camping trip was an hour and a half car ride away and we stayed from Thursday through Monday. I spent the day and a half prior double checking and gathering all our gear (including shopping for food and all my other usual chores) and about an hour packing up the car before sprinting out to camp.

What I learned this time around is that the second time is a whole lot easier.

Before our first war, my sister and I had an official camping list that I worked through to gather gear but I ended up over packing anyway. This time, I couldn’t find that list so I made my own based on the stuff I knew would work and what wouldn’t.

Currently, my sister and I sleep in a small pop-up tent inside of an easy up canopy (it’s become quite the little joke but also something cute that’s garnered just a hint of admiration: our tent within a tent set up).

We end up putting up 6 side panels to create overlapping doorways and better coverage of corners – we get dressed in the main area and aren’t looking to give anyone a show.  We steak everything down with gutter steaks and wide washers, keeping all but the front flaps down with little to trip over. I improved the set up ten-fold this time by securing the back flaps with extra steaks and creating a secure but movable front flap/door using smaller tent hooks.

As we develop our war gear, we are hoping to create canvas walls and top to put around our pop-up frame to keep the ease of set up but with a better aesthetic (with or without the small inner tent).

I was able to improve our lighting – we have 8 sets of solar powered bulbs from Orchard Hardware – by not just circling our tent but winding the lights up the center bars. One of our sets was unlit the whole time, but the central placement of the lights kept the whole tent bright enough to move around in, no matter how dark it was outside. Even with our placement near a tree, taping the solar batteries to the top of the canopy kept everything lit. I also suggest the small fake candles which can be set out on tables, in tents, or really anywhere that needs lights that you can’t actually light with a flame. You will need movable light as well (porter-potties are no joke in the dark!).

We also cut about a third of the stuff we packed last time simply by reducing clutter. I made sure we had essentials and some luxuries – I ended up being the hair person of my household so a variety of hairbands and bobby-pins in pretty glass jars were amazing to have on hand. Other necessities were the few portable chargers to keep our phones and fitbits charged enough to keep in contact and time. I still need to cut a little of the dead weigh,t but I’ve seen that we are learning what we need as we go.

I absolutely fell in love with this campsite in Bakersfield. It was absolutely beautiful with great views of the water but everything was in walking distance. I wish I had remembered to carry around my camera more – these trips are the most magical photo shoots – yet, walking around without my lens was an adventure in and of itself. However, I did take my camera to one ‘Holy Grail’ themed event which was so much fun.

What I absolutely love about these trips is being (mostly) unplugged and out of the normal world, and getting to have late night conversations around camp fires and under the stars. You get to wear strange outfits from all over the world – I ran around for two days in baggy pants and a tiny top I’d never think to throw on (since I’m usually in skinny jeans, baggy/over-sized tops and some kind of pull over/accent piece) and it was so much fun! – and just let yourself go. I’ve made amazing friends and laughed myself silly. I have volunteered my time and am slowly starting to take on more camp and court duties. I’ve lived a fantasy and I won’t lie, it has been hard to come down from this trip.

So as I recover and reminisce and (shockingly!) miss my hard, dirt packed bed:

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

To War and Home Again (SCA-Style)…