Words of inspiration: Carpe Diem

While the phrase ‘Carpe Diem’ can be both beloved and dreaded in the travel community – it is equally a call to arms and an overused ideal that people either want to kill or scream at every chance – what I am talking about is a book that inspired me to travel over a decade ago, but one that I think many may have missed out on: Autumn Cornwell’s 2007 debut novel, Carpe Diem.

I don’t want to go into to much detail on what the book is about – that’s what a google search is for – but in simplest terms: A type A, overachiever – Vasser, 16 years old – wants to stay home and study all summer, but instead gets whisked off on a crazy, trouble filled adventure across Southeast Asia.

I read this a decade ago and still when little things go wrong in any trip I take, this is the book that I can’t stop thinking of. Mostly, this is a scene almost half way through the book and is a fairly long running crisis where Vasser has some …. intestinal distress. This chronically instances from socks lost to toilets and how you try to explain this to cute fellow travelers to the worse possible places for vehicles to have bathrooms – waist-high boxes with circular openings that you must climb in a moving vehicle will always give me chills!

I love books and when an author can make me remember one specific scene and have perfect detail and emotional recall that always finds me when I am in similar situations, it is a book I want to keep around.

Carpe Diem was this book to me and I can never recommend it enough. I laughed, I hid, I fell in love and I was inspired to get out of my house and more than ever, make sure I was out in the world.

So go out there and bring your book and inspiration with you.

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

Words of inspiration: Carpe Diem

Learning to Say No

I won’t lie, in one way, I have talked about this topic before, however, this post is a different kind of learning curve. In earlier post – especially when I’ve talked about traveling as a woman and traveling alone – I talked about how important it is to say no. This could be saying no to people who want to join your adventure; people who think you shouldn’t travel alone; even saying no to things that make you truly uncomfortable (but I still suggest pushing your limits); knowing when you need to say no, despite all the Yes Men out there say.

Now, years older and in a very different life situation, I am balancing real live (verses school responsibilities of a few years ago), wanting to travel, and wanting to go see my soon-to-be husband. What I have learned – and again, my situation is specific for my situation – is that when making plans, I can’t be guilty or afraid to take a little time out for myself and say no to taking on extra hours because I could reasonably be somewhere else or doing something else instead of being at work.

I am a teacher and I take that responsibility seriously – in fact, in some ways, I seem to take it more seriously than many others in my acquaintances. I have had coworkers that have taken weeks off for a family members wedding (no, they weren’t involved in the wedding, although it turned out that they actually did a mini-vacation with a two-day wedding trip wrapped into it).

I, on the other hand, get a guilty knot thinking about the 2 to 4 days I may need to take off when Ryan is in town; then there is potential time next year when I want to go to Germany for Christmas next year and then North Carolina with him for another wedding. None of these are extended amounts of time, but I still feel guilty not being their for my hours, plus having to say no to helping fill in for others as a substitute.

Again, I am not saying this to point out my work ethic – I have serious work and financial reasons that I work like this – But my point is, no matter what your work is, most of us need to learn to say no. No, I don’t need to take all that extra work; no, I shouldn’t bail on my vacation time; no, I don’t need to feel guilty that I am not able to respond every time I am called.

I have been trying to balance life and money and travel for a long time. I also thought I knew how to say no, but I will always admit that I am a work in progress.

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

Learning to Say No

It’s February!

Can you believe we are already here! I know that for some, the extra emphasis on all things love and candy throughout the month is overwhelming and overwrought, but I am getting married in a few months and feeling both a little love and a little stressed this week with wedding stuff, so for me it’s all about bringing on the love!

In terms of travel, they say that traveling can make or break you as a couple. luckily for me, it seems that when we are together, Ry and I do a lot of travel and it’s made us work together and tested us for the better – road trips give you a lot of time to sit there and talk about big, important things if you let them!

But for us, it’s about traveling together, to each other, as well as traveling separately and enjoying each adventure no matter what! As hard as traveling together is, watching your partner go and do so many things you wish you had time for can be a challenge you never expected to face.

So how do you deal with this? Turn days out apart into a game! Give them goals or set up bingo or scavenger hunts and see how many things you see that are similar or radically different. Write each other little notes about where you are, what they saw, and what you were thinking about – bring them on the adventure with you that way.

Mostly, it’s about knowing your partner – Ry knows that I love hearing about the mundane stuff he deals with during a day from when he thinks someone may have flirted with him to frustrations with how long he is working, so traveling or day to day, he always shares his stories.

So, overwrought or not, this February I wish you travel and love – love from partners, friends, family and/or mostly yourself.

Until next time:

This is Leave on the Wind, helping you soar.

It’s February!

4 years on….

This week marks 4 years of writing…. and I can’t believe it. Honestly, I don’t know if I feel like I have been doing this for so much longer or so much shorter. But today, I want to review and go back to my first, fledgling of an idea.

There Be Dragons Ahead.

I have been writing for four years and all but the first few months, I haven’t missed a week.

I was 23 years old (almost 24); I had visited 9 countries across 4 contents; I had lived in 1 country; I felt that I had seen so much of the world and in some ways I had – in others, I had no idea and wouldn’t believe how far I have come.

Today, I am about to turn 27; I have visited and been blessed to explore 14 countries across 4 continents; I’ve lived in 2 countries; I’ve traveled completely alone and on my own dime; I fell like I have seen so much of the world and yet know almost nothing and have so much more to see; I am getting married and working on balancing my travel, my relationships, my career, and everything else I want to do in my life that I never thought possible.

It is crazy what life can do for someone in the span of 4 years.

Four years ago, when I talked about Dragons ahead – a reference to old maps that inferred that there was more of the world than they could map with their current scope of knowledge – I knew that there was more to learn, but I sit back and laugh now at how much I truly thought I knew.

Even back then, I had seen more of the world than most people I have met and in a greater abundance of situations – as an ambassador, as a large family trip, and small friends and family trips, purely as a tourists or with locals that could show you the behind-the-scenes versions of their towns.

So, There Be Dragons Ahead.

This has never felt more real. I have no idea what the future holds because every time I make a plan, God seems to laugh in my face. Soon enough, where I live will be dictated my the US government and army – I can’t plan that. Instead, my plan moving forward, I will grab that dragon and let it take me wherever it deems fit and necessary. And even though I would love to see the whole world and explore all of it’s wonders, I hope that for the rest of my life, there are still dragons ahead.

This is Leave on the Wind, (still) helping you soar.

4 years on….